We broke up because of my pregnancy, do you think he’ll come around?
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Don't expect him to be around. Prepare on doing this completely and totally on your own. He sounds like he has his hands full already. If he left you then that's a pretty strong indication. You are in control of your own destiny.
I agree with other comments not to have any expectations or get your hopes up. Focus on you and if he does change his mind and it works out then that’s a positive. My ex wasn’t happy when I decided to keep our child but stayed anyway and I went through a pregnancy where I felt I couldn’t fully be happy and almost a year of digs and comments of how he didn’t want more kids. Refusing to help because she’s ’my child’ while he still stayed with me. It took me a lot to leave eventually, my daughter can’t understand right now but she would’ve one day. I wish I’d have done it by myself from the start, not saying it’s easier but the anxiety and guilt and everything for me was worse than just accepting at the start he didn’t want to be in that situation and if he wasn’t in the picture. You’ve got this regardless 🤍 focus on you and baby and whatever is meant to be will be x
@Miriam congratulations! Thank you for your advice. I had started to accept and that’s when he’s come back out of the blue with all this contact, which has been overwhelming and confusing and I’ve definitely had a bit of a blip! I think it’s clear that asking him for space (of course other than anything baby update related as now he does want to be involved I won’t exclude him). I’m a big believer in whatever’s meant to be will be and I also have my mother as a great role model to show how being a single mother is a great experience and has a much less of an impact if any at all on a child rather than one or two unhappy parents who are still together.
I’m sorry 😔. I’ve had a similar experience and they do not come around… I mean it sounds like he’s gonna take responsibility (my BD said that too but he’s never met my LO and she’s nearly 6 months now). Try to focus on you and baby and stay strong! 💪🏽🩷
@Kristina thank you ❤️
You've got this 😉❤️🙏
Even if he does come around, will you want him back? Just because he’s decided he now wants it doesn’t mean you have to agree. If you do then make sure you process the hurt he created first.
Please try to put your mind at ease and avoid creating any expectations towards that. I know it's hard when there's still feelings involved but if he's brought you only pain in those 3 weeks then you should really try and not expect anything else from him. I myself am going through a similar situation. My ex broke up with me when I told him I was pregnant. Didn't want to know about me or the baby and only brought me pain and to make it worse I kept expecting him to change his mind even when he told me he wasn't going to... So after a few weeks I started the process of accepting his decision and stopped expecting anything from him. And trust me, my anxiety and my mental health in general is sooo much better now! Focus on your baby and your own wellbeing and try to not create any expectations towards that as that just makes us anxious and brings no good into our lives. Whatever is meant to happen for you/your relationship will happen, so don't worry 🙏😊 Also congratulations on your baby, I'm also due in Oct.