Any new moms get jealous that husband can go out whenever he want?

Honestly I do too sometimes, even if I'm able to just get out with me and the baby but to go out and do something that I like, I wish I could. I just take the small moments as I can get them, I go for a walk with my little one or to the park. My baby is more dependent on me, since im breastfeeding and he won't take a bottle to save my life lol. But I feel like as he gets older it would be easier for me to get out of the house, with or without him, as long as i can get out and not feel stuck at home. I would just voice it to him, and let him know that you also deserve a break and definitely some you time.

I feel that way a lot!! My husband doesn’t go out but he plays his computer with friends a lot. And I get envious bc our little always wants to be with me and for me to hold him. Sometimes if I haven’t been able to do any of my hobbies that day I ask if he can take him for like an hour. But I also remind myself that I’ll have plenty of time to go out and do whatever I want when he’s older. And right now he needs me and is still learning and growing, and I’ll miss the cuddles when he gets bigger. It’s a lot harder said than done tho

All. The. Time. I even get jealous he gets to go to work sometimes and I'm just here. When my husband is off he usually takes the baby for a while after I feed him and I just do my own thing at home so I'm close by if he gets hungry or something. I just read, quilt go grab a coffee on my own. It's not a lot of time but it's better than nothing.

Yup. It's been the source of arguments for us since I became a SAHM. "You can do what you want knowing I'm always here to care for the kids" "when we go out, you don't even think about what the kids potential needs are, if I don't prep ahead of time it's a miserable outing" "why do I have to ask for breaks? Why do I have to schedule my down time weeks in advance just to get a couple hours to myself?". I feel you!

My husband doesn’t go out alone unless it’s to run errands for the house. But I do find myself a bit jealous when he can go outside & do yard work haha like mow or tidy the garage or anything like outside. I would love to get an hour to be outside & gardening

Resentment is real.

I feel the same. My boyfriend will come home from work walk our dog with me then head out for about 5 hours to play games with his friends. It gets too much for me especially when baby is screaming her head off all day and I don’t get a rest. There have been a couple of times where he goes out last minute when I plan to do a workout or just have time to myself. I had to tell him that I need time to myself and then he stopped going out for like 2 weeks so that I could do what I needed to do once he got home

Honestly I get jealous of him showering for an hour and then enjoying his peace afterwards but my little baby is attached to my hip even in the shower mostly because he brings the baby when he starts crying 🥲

@Vencecea OMG, talk about it! I have had to literally leave him with the baby and TRY to drown out the sound of the crying in the shower.. and sometimes the babies shower counts as my shower (bc baths are too much for our old knees and backs on the tiny apartment tub) We're supposed to be working on some projects (cleaning/organizing/selling/ECT) together and I can/will try to get things done when I have a chance to with or without the baby, but my husband thinks it's fine if I'm busy with the baby that unless I'm actively asking him to do it he's got some down time... Like what is down time for me? A pump sesh is down time for me... 🤷🏻‍♀️ (LOVE YOUR NAME BTW)

Im surprised at the comments. My fiancé doesn’t go out much but when he does he comes home and helps with our son and always tells if I want go out at anytime just let him know.

@Stephanie LOL honestly I feel the same my “free time” is cleaning or cooking maybe even sleeping everything else seems like a group activity (also THANK YOU I LOVE YOUR NAME ALSO

I don’t really get jealous i think, i feel some men really lack the ability to think or understand that the one who’s staying at home also wants to go out and needs her time. Honestly some men are literal dumb fucksss

Yes and no. Because I know if I just said something he would have no issue with watching our daughter, nor would his mother. My mother on the other hand-will throw a bitch fit if I let my mil babysit cause she knows I won’t let her. And seeing as we live with my mom rn I’d like to just keep the peace til we get out of here

My husband helps a lot and doesn’t leave me alone but I am jealous of his mental health 🥲

@Stephanie oh goodness, baby showers? I want to cause of my back but I did it one time just to soothe her and she was slippery af😬 I can’t imagine trying to wash her What I currently use is the frida grow with me tub up on the sink (yes I know, shame on me, it should be in the tub. A tub in a tub) though depending on how bad your back is and how tall your faucet is, it might not work out as well for you😅

@Stephanie we tend to make it a family affair, so one holds the baby and the other scrubs (especially now that he's so squirmy) but I've gotten accustomed to doing most of it myself. And usually I'm handing him off for Dad to dry or vice versa, but we're always in earshot if we need assistance. . . Dad's not good solo tho.

@Stephanie you can also use a water carrier for the shower too.. I've got a pool/water ring sling and it's nice to have as an extra hand

No because I demand my time out early on, I continued my social life when I was ready. He stays home and looks after the baby for a couple hrs 💁🏻‍♀️ we both get the same amount of time out.

I’m more jealous of all the damn sleep he gets 😒😒😒

@Kerri ✨ I started sleeping in the guest room during the last sleep regression since it's closer to the nursery. I found I resented my husband less not watching him sleep. 😅

I actually don’t think this is normal- common perhaps but not “normal”. Your husband should be open and happy to take your child to give you a break. Whether that’s something as simple as taking the baby for a long walk or staying home solo so you can get out. I understand being the sole one responsible for feedings (if you exclusively breastfed like me) or the baby was a feed to sleep child (like my child also) but for the rest of the time your husband needs to step up and provide opportunity for you to have time alone. Literally for your sanity. Even if your child is “feed to sleep” it is still totally doable for the father to have his own way of getting Bub down so it’s not a valid excuse. If your husband won’t initiate this I encourage you to open up a dialogue about it. If he is stressed about being alone with a young baby start small and work up- 1.5 hours then try 4 etc. it’s not sustainable for you long term you need a break.