Intimacy after birth

My husband has been really frustrated because of the lack of intimacy in our relationship right now. We weren’t able to have sex the last several months of my pregnancy and we are still in the 6 weeks after birth. I have given him a handful of blow jobs and hand jobs and we have had some good make outs. We make it a point to go on dates and spend time together. I admit the past 5 weeks we haven’t done anything, that’s mostly because we’ve been focused on our new baby and my hormones have totally taken away my sex drive. He feels like I’m dangling sex in front of him but not giving it to him. I am not doing that, I have just been following my doctors orders and waiting until it’s safe to have sex again. How do I communicate with him that I’m not making excuses or trying to dangle sex in front of him. I’m not witholding. I’m just waiting.

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Call up your Dr and have them tell him you must wait 6 weeks before being intimate

He should really do some research instead of making you guilty

It depends on your relationship, if I were you, I'd have the doctor remind him why you need the 6 weeks (the dinner plate sized wound on you after passing the placenta) then tell him to take his phone to the bathroom with some lotion if he's that pressed 😂😂 My sex drive was way too high so we just found other ways during those weeks so we could both get off 😂😊

The last thing he should be doing is putting pressure on you. You just pushed a human out of your body for crying out loud. He can learn some patience. I was miserable and sick my entire pregnancy and can count on one hand the amount of times we had sex. Then I wasn’t ready until 3 months PP because I tore, and had bad PPA/PPD. My husband never even brought it up. So it’s possible for a man to just chill tf out and go without it for a little while. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Also nothing is wrong with you for not having a sex drive. It’s totally normal. It does return I promise! How exactly are you dangling sex in front of him???? You’re literally 5 weeks post partum. At 5 weeks PP for me I looked a hot mess and was covered in breast milk. Nothing about PP is sexy 🤣 tell him to read a fucking book. My God why are men literal pigs sometimes.

It’s not safe for you to have sex, this shouldn’t even be an issue, you’ve got a baby to take care of that’s your priority right now

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