I really need help 😞

What pump are you using, love? I’ve found that the right pump really matters. I’m using the spectra and it’s absolutely fantastic - if it’s not the one you’re using, please give it a try. Secondly, there’s breastfeeding support. Don’t hesitate to let one of the midwives or health inspector who will come visit know that you need help with breastfeeding. They’ll point you to all the right resources ❤️

Hi, so sorry to read you’re having a tough time, you’re not alone in this, it’s a tough gig and you have been through a lot …. have the health visitors been out to see you ? Don’t worry or beat yourself up you have been through a lot and sleep deprivation is the worst …. You need to call your local health visitors team for breastfeeding support and I would say it sounds like your little one might be allergic to dairy or something like that if vomiting the formulas back up …. These guys are really helpful too Breastfeeding help https://laleche.org.uk Reflux and allergies support https://www.thebabyrefluxlady.co.uk https://www.rockabyehub.co.uk Keep preserving and keep reaching out for support lean on as many people and support systems as you can xx

I'm sorry your having a difficult time, your story sounds very similar to ours. I'm 5m in and managed to get baby to pretty much EBF (except one bottle at night which was our choice anyway, not his) and maybe one bottle in the day every few days after 2m. It's exhausting, but we got there. Id recommend pump as much as you can, offer baby breast when he isn't starving, and just keep trying. Every time you give him a bottle make sure you pump as well to maintain supply. 50ml isn't bad when your only 2w PP so don't be disheartened by that. Id definitely look into getting a different pump as well. Just out of curiosity is baby jaundice? My little one was and that impacted him feeding. Xx

50ml for a 2 week old is an amazing amount my babies 4 weeks and has only just got up from 60 mls (I express). If I pump every 3 hours my produced amount varies but between both breasts I produc what she takes plus extra sometimes). C section babies are sleepy babies, but this will improve after the first two weeks. My baby wouldn't latch at the start and when I started using nipple shields she would latch and then fall asleep in 3 sucks. You could tickle her feet, strip her naked and she would sleep. She even slept through her heel prick.

Sorry one other thing have them check your little one isn’t tongue tied too as that can prevent them latching properly And can cause reflux too x

I had this exact problem when my baby was 2 weeks old. It got the point I’d hand him to my mum or his dad because I just couldn’t listen to the sound of the screaming or crying anymore. I felt myself tense, stressed and babies do pick up even if you don’t show it, if you feel it they’ll know and they’ll scream and cry even more because of it. My solution was to get outside to get fresh air and walk with baby every single day even if it’s only for 30 minutes. I put my AirPods in listen to music and just breathe. I also had a traumatic birth, no skin to skin as planned but I didn’t have nicu or anything. I tried breastfeeding and he cracked my nipples so bad to the point of bleeding. I resulted in just pumping and lost my supply due to having no hormone flow from baby latching. I could only get 0.5-1oz per boob each session or sometimes only 0.5 for both in 40 minutes. It was degrading. Have you checked the symptoms for cmpa (cows milk allergy)? I found the reason he screamed so

Much was because he had cmpa and the doctor wouldn’t listen to me. He would be fussy on the boob, breastmilk in a bottle, kendamil and would scream and cry for hours or just fall asleep from exhaustion. Honestly please get yourself out and get yourself some fresh air everyday i promise it does help. I feel so much better since getting out everyday and noticed a difference in my baby too. He’s not picking up on my stress and I can finally enjoy being a mum to my month old since doing so. It made me exhausted from doing it to begin with but since doing it everyday for 2 weeks it’s gotten easier. Don’t give up with what you’re doing I promise it gets easier. If you’re still healing take it slow. Also get breastfeeding support. Don’t feel stupid for asking questions or anything. You’re new to it and even if you’ve had a baby before every baby is still different so you’re still new to it each time. There are people that can help!

Aw you're doing amazing. I found it SO hard at the beginning and I didn't go through half of what you and baby have so far! But I remember feeling the same as my baby was jaundice and low weight so had the health visitor coming round every week for like a month, telling me she wasn't gaining enough weight and I felt like a terrible mum. Everytime we gave formula so I could have a break it just gave my daughter stomach pains and trapped wind, so she'd just scream & I'd wish I never had a break or given her anything else that wasn't my milk but I was so exhausted I would fall asleep trying to feed her. I second the getting out in the fresh air for you both. Do you feed using a syringe if he is super tired at least you can get some milk in and it might wake him up a little and give him a taste of your milk? The pumping sounds like it's going well 50ml is what I always got too! Have you tried a hacka or any wearable pumps so you can have it on and try not to think about it and see if more comes out that way?xx

Someone I met at a breastfeeding support group went private to have her boys tongue tie cut because that was the only way she could get it done and that helped them a lot after. I promise it does all get easier after this stage I felt so disheartened at the start of breastfeeding but once you get into it it does become easier than making up bottles & for comforting little one. I hope you can get some more help from lactating professionals but also I hope these messages make you feel a bit more positive too 💕